Every Sunday one of the bloggers I follow posts the blogs she has read for the week and recommends to others. I check them out. Pass them on sometimes. But today something I read over at WriterUnboxed just resonated so much with me I needed to post about it, now.
we writers have thinner skins because we need them to absorb the world at large, not just to accurately portray its events and its people, but to convey them authentically on the page to others.
Wow. I was feeling my thinner skin this week. Someone at the co-op my kiddo goes to sent an email explaining they hadn’t done the work they said they would because they don’t like me, I’m unpleasant. I walked around feeling physically ill about that for days. Partly because I don’t like to be told I’m unpleasant, but largely because I couldn’t wrap my head around the kind of thinking that goes on in someone’s mind, where “I don’t like you” is reasonable justification for letting 150 other people down.
The kiddo has inherited my thinner skin. He acutely feels other people’s pain. Often when we talk about it I tell him to embrace his feelings. Those warning bells are great indicators that something is wrong. They are an opportunity to stand up for those who can’t, help someone who needs it, or change the environment he’s in. Maybe he’ll use that thinner skin to be a writer, or maybe a musician, since that seems to be his leaning right now.
But maybe, just maybe, he’ll use it to change the world.
T.A. Henry 
You are NOT unpleasant!
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thank you my friend
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Yeah, those are not so fun and don’t waste your time trying to get your head around someone willing to let 150 others down. They were looking for an excuse and clearly didn’t have a commitment to start with. But the thinner skin thing, oh so true…recently saw a posting about recognizing if you are an empath. Being one means always having to decide “my pain or their pain?”, since you feel what they feel. You make choices about granting extreme grace to someone truly in need and those who just need encouragement to not give up. You will also go farther, and forgive more from a wounded person because you are gifted to understand what it’s really like for them…and yes, you will change the world, one special moment at a time.
On Sep 18, 2016 9:24 AM, “An Adventure in NaNoWriMo” wrote:
> tahenryauthoress posted: “Every Sunday one of the bloggers I follow posts > the blogs she has read for the week and recommends to others. I check them > out. Pass them on sometimes. But today something I read over at > WriterUnboxed just resonated so much with me I needed to post about” >
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As I was reading, I felt sorry this happened. And then I started to think, “Hey! At least she knows for certain that one person is not a friend.” I don’t often get that chance. I’m apparently hard to approach and I don’t know if that’s because people find me scary or unpredictable. It could be either and I’m not sure how I feel about that. Hang in there, though. Just be yourself. It’s not possible for any of us to be everyone’s cup of tea. It is what it is…
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Thank you for your kind words.
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You’re welcome! 🙂
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Oh, man, I had a moment like that at work this week. In HR I often have to tell people things they don’t want to hear, and while intellectually I know their comments are REALLY based on that, and not personal attacks….sometimes it sure as heck FEELS personal.
I feel ya.
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HR. I do not envy you.
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BUT IT’S SO GLAM. hahahaha no
I don’t envy me either.
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I spent a brief period of time in HR laying people off. Bleh.
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Yeah, that’s a treat right there.
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Training Department fell under HR, so for three months, I laid off people every week because hey I was “In” HR. Seriously people? I make web training for the factory in China.
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Lucky you….so much luck. lol
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