We all have our private peccadilloes we don’t share with people no matter how open we may seem. I am no different. For a few months now I’ve been doing DBT, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy. I won’t go in to all the reasons this came about. This is just the ground work for the story to come.
We’re doing a module on Interpersonal Effectiveness.
Yes, everything has snazzy name. This module could have been called “how not to be a dick and how to not accept dickish behavior from others.”
When I am talking to someone 75-80% of my brain is fully focused on them and the remainder is stringently editing all the things that come to mind to say. I agreed, as part of Interpersonal Effectiveness, to stop doing that for a week. To listen 100% in the moment to what the other person was saying and then to use the standard 3 seconds social pause to plan my reply.
Twice this week I was told I was mean.
This leads me to consider other ways in which my brain works. Sure I can write 48K words in 6 days. My brain is that fast. All I have to do is put in the hours.
Then it needs to be stringently edited for a year before it’s ready for human consumption. LOL
Why should I treat talking any differently?